For Lil’ Keezy, who missed me when I was gone.
In the last couple months I created an account on Reddit after hearing about how it was the best place in the internet; the internet of course being the best place in the world. I have taken to it slowly, due mostly to the fact that I didn’t really appreciate that I could subscribe to niche “subreddits” that would cater to my particular, peculiar tastes (CHECK OUT r/SPACEDICKS … IT’S TERRIFIC!!!). From a subreddit devoted to “The Wire” to r/supershibe, haven for doge worship…
…there’s just about anything you could want. At some point, probably while looking for a Matrix subreddit to post a wicked funny image I made…
I KNOW IT’S PRETTY HILARIOUS, BUT DON’T LOL TOO HARD, GAIS!
…I happened across r/TheRedPill. Naively, I assumed it would be a forum of like-minded dissidents who had “woken up” to the deep, structural injustice in society.
Well, I was half right, but only in the worst way possible.
You see, TRP is devoted to the disenfranchised male of the species taking back the power from oppressive women. Still naive, I assumed this was a repackaging of the much-maligned Pick-Up Artist (PUA)/Seduction community popularized by Neil Strauss’ 2005 book, “The Game.” I always felt the PUA/S community was unfairly demonized when it attained mainstream popularity because certain core principles were overlooked and it was derided as simply “manipulating women.” Naturally, women took offense to the idea that men might be ninja’ing their brains and fledgling Pick-Up Artists who would quote material and routines verbatim were spotted, scorned and ostracized in the backlash.
However, if women took the time to look a little deeper, the core principles are actually self-improvement, taking charge of your life and gaining fulfillment in love and sex. Nobody talks about that part but most savvy modern women are familiar with the “Neg.” Well bravo, that’s like reducing the profession of nurse simply to one who wipes the asses of bed-ridden patients. It’s insulting, reductive and inaccurate.
I’m not gonna argue the relative merits of Pick-Up Artistry beyond saying that since my introduction to the community there has been a corresponding improvement in my dealings with the opposite sex and more importantly, a diversification and broadening of my own experiential base and character, vis a vis life in general. Notice, I said “corresponding,” not “causal,” meaning you can be like me, take the truth from a given source and use what works to your advantage. Conversely, you can also take certain ideas and incorporate them into a philosophy of fear, revenge, subjugation and dehumanization.
Like I said, I was a little naive exploring this sub, and more than a little excited to be among others like me. After lurking for a time and getting some good leads on self-improvement material (Check out “The Black Phillip Show” from the late Patrice O’Neal) I was emboldened to make a post which posited a connection between the (perceived) necessity of PUA/S techniques among males and the unfortunate reality that we live in a competitive society whose operant mechanism is scarcity. I inquired as to whether others thought that a more egalitarian society where we did not always have to game for advantage would bring an end to the commodity-status of female sexuality/women using sex as a bargaining chip, and men treating their time (time not having sex) the same way.* A pretty straight-forward well-reasoned question if you ask me. ASK ME!!!
What damned me was my good-natured, well-intended good-bye: “Til that day, game righteously and leave her better than you found her.”
Pardon my language, but on the strength of that insignificant addendum niggaz was wilin’ on me!
“Yes. We most certainly were.”
Without even addressing my question most people simply attacked my farewell. The amount of vitriol I received for supposing that you could enrich a woman’s life by being a part of it was a complete shock to me. It was made abundantly clear to me that a woman’s value diminished with every new interaction (i.e. sex partner) she had and that for a man to get what he wanted a woman would necessarily have to be diminished. So I’m sorry to every girl I ever slept with, but you fucked up.
Amazed by this I took a closer look at some of the suggested reading the subreddit provided links to and was amazed that there was a movement of males who felt that the biggest threat to men today was rampant feminism and that misandry victims were really invisible victims.
Now allow me to put my cards on the table real quick to dispel any notions of “white-knighting” on my part.
Ahem…fuck feminism.** I got no use for it or any other ‘-ism’ notion.
That said, I don’t fear that the feminazis are coming to get me and in turn use that fear to justify mistreatment of women. It turns out however that a whole community of men do. Call me old-fashioned (or a beta, liberal-fag, leftard, pussy) but I just think that relationships can be mutually beneficial and fulfilling. Is it difficult? Yes, especially in the context of a competitive socio-economic system where everyone, including a romantic partner, can be rightfully suspected of trying to take you for all you have, which really ties into the original question in my post.
But it is possible, and moreover, I would say its desirable.
You see when it comes down to it, I class both feminism and the TRP movement as outgrowths of inequality. Every disenfranchised group is gonna find some ‘other’ to blame. But sometimes “others” can be amorphous and hard to define. Blaming the other gender is mad easy though; its an “other” as old as the species itself. And, big surprise here, it doesn’t make your situation any better.
If you think one of these pics represents worse violence than the other then you just might be part of the problem.
In closing I want to say that there is truth in everything if you have eyes to decode it and see it. In the case of feminism, this is especially true; whatever the root causality, there are unique challenges that women go through that it is foolish to try and deny. I think not acknowledging this is an affront to women.
Similarly, the Red Pill has a lot of good stuff in it but you gotta be willing to wade through a lot of hatred and antipathy. Moreover, there are some guys who responded thoughtfully, if cynically, to my post, which shows that you can’t just broadly paint any group as good or bad based on the loudest members.
*I realize this is an oversimplified expression of male/female relations but it is an expedient one for the point I was trying to make.
**When well-intentioned issues-based movements gain too much clout and become too established they become burdensome to anyone who isn’t championed explicitly by that cause. Please read more about my thoughts on the subject here.
One response to “Shedding a Tear for Feminism”
Andre. ..how did I get to your insightful blog…but however serendipitous ….I’m glad.
How are you anyway?